Acknowledgment

How often do people acknowledge you? How often do you acknowledge other people or indeed yourself? What is acknowledgment anyway? The Oxford Dictionary defines it as a number of things, two of which I think are apt in the context of this discussion. "To recognise or admit the existence, truth or reality of" and "to express appreciation or thanks for." To acknowledge then is to notice something about others or yourself and show your appreciation for it. It can be used in the simplest of observations as well as in response to greater achievements. It is also a powerful tool to use as a recognition of effort as well as success. Acknowledgment is something which is not used as often as it might be and yet it can be an excellent way to make somebody feel good and to encourage somebody to further effort or achievement. It is true that we usually find what we look for and to this end if we look for the good in others (or ourself) we will probably find it. Further, if we actively notice and tell the other person what we have witnessed we will most probably improve their mood, their feel good factor, and possibly spur them on to further good deeds. Acknowledgment can be used in situations that we often take for granted (i.e. our partner emptying the bins). Think how much better that task would become if we were acknowledged for it. Acknowledgment should not be confused with compliments which tend to be more about the giver than the receiver. (i.e. I like your dress with the focus on 'I'. as opposed to"you wear that dress really well"). Although it can be used to notice simple things, it should not take the form of meaningless praise such as "good job" or the like. To acknowledge others well we should first be comfortable acknowledging ourselves, and then we need to be strong enough to shift our attention outside of ourself. Why don't you spend the next week actively trying to acknowledge others. The positive energy you create by doing this should bring sunshine to your own life. Beware though that some people may feel uncomfortable with being noticed, or having things highlighted to them, particularly if it is done in front of others. Outward uncomfortableness may be a sign of not being used to being acknowledged.In most cases though it is likely to make people feel good inside and to make many positively glow. During the week, try to spend time acknowledging yourself too. Focus on the things that you have done, or are trying to do. Remember too that if you want to encourage people to do better, acknowledging what they are doing right rather than focussing on anything that they may be doing wrong will often produce significant results. Acknowledgment is a powerful way to encourage, motivate, enthuse, reinvigorate and focus on the good. It is worth a try!